It took me a long time to become a mother. For 15 long years, my husband and I went through every possible medical procedure available to us to become parents. During that time, I became very successful at my job and advanced steadily in my career. At the 15-year mark, we adopted a newborn baby girl. It all happened quite suddenly, and since I was the managing director of my company, I continued to work from home during maternity leave and lined up an excellent in-home babysitter whose only responsibility was to care for my baby, and I went back to work at the office.
For a few years, I felt pulled in multiple directions. Then I found out I was pregnant. This time, I had nine months to put a replacement in at work and plan for a more focused maternity leave, but it didn’t work out, and I worked from home again. Then the pandemic hit, and there was no in-person school, no babysitter and no work for me. While everyone I knew complained about having their children at home constantly, I loved and cherished every moment. Never once during those six months that I was home, did I imagine quitting my job and walking away from my career. Then I heard a caller on your program in a similar situation, and you candidly told her to give her kids up for adoption since it seemed that her job was taking priority. Soon after, I told my husband I was handing in my resignation. He broke out in the largest smile and has supported my decision ever since.
I’ve never been happier. I hope that original caller made some changes to her life, but I wanted you to know that there was another listener that day – one who had adopted and hoped and prayed for children – and your advice motivated me to change my lifestyle to stay home and raise them.
What was life like for your marriage before and after children? What have you learned? What advice would you share with others? Send your story to me at DrLaura@DrLaura.com!
I Made My Job More Important Than My Family
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