Email of the Day: I Neglected My Husband and Almost Lost Him

My husband has been a long-time listener of yours, and when he brought your book “The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands” home, I read it, but not with an open mind. Looking back, I regret that. We’ve been married almost 16 years and 14 years in, I almost lost him.

I was not taking care of him the way I should have and he found a sympathetic ear in a friend of ours, who gave him the attention he was craving. I could tell things weren’t right with us, and he told me he had found someone to listen to him and make him feel like he had some worth. That was a punch in the stomach!

I immediately changed me. I begged him to give me the chance to prove that I still loved and treasured him. I didn’t realize how beaten down and unappreciated I had made him feel. It wasn’t so much what I had done as what I hadn’t done. I felt like the biggest bitch in the world. Since then, I started showing and telling my husband daily how much he meant to me, our kids and our family. I made him feel special every day and surprised him with date nights and parent “getaway weekends.” I’m lucky he was willing to give me another chance, and overall, we are stronger now than we have been since we were dating.

Thank you for helping me realize how “feeding” my husband would make all the difference in the world to us and our marriage. I’m proud to say that not only do I treat my husband like a king, but I’m now a much better and happier wife. Even more important, the girlfriend in me has returned and we’re both loving the new playful “us.”

Nancy

I Neglected My Husband and Almost Lost Him