I was given your book, “The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands” as a wedding present. We were several months into our marriage when I finally read it, and our marriage abruptly took a turn for the better! I had fallen into the stereotype of how a wife should act. I would come home from work, saying I was too tired for sex. While I love having sex with my husband, I had been brainwashed into thinking that a tired wife should not put out for her husband! I thought “I’ve worked so hard making other people happy all day; why should I have to come home and take care of him too?” Looking back, I cannot believe what a selfish and self-destructive thought this was.
In the media, there are two types of sex portrayed: 1) passionate and exciting premarital sex with near-strangers, and 2) begrudging sex where women deign to give in to their needy husbands. I was entrapped in this sophistry. But your book taught me that having a loving husband is not the “burden” that gossip groups, sitcoms and feminists tell you it should be. My husband is wonderful, and I love that he finds me desirable.
Ever since I got my act together, my husband is the confident man he deserves to be. He feels safe with me, knowing that I will never reject him. Not only am I paid back with satisfying sex, but he does everything in his power to make me happy! Nothing works better for improving a marriage than improving yourself. You have helped me become the wife I should be and helped me have the marriage I always wanted.
Melissa
I Resented Taking Care of My Husband