I’ve been worried my husband was starting to have an emotional affair with a woman from work. They talk on the phone for up to 90 minutes and text each other often. When I met her, I said, “Oh, you’re the woman who flirts with my husband.” She laughed, then glanced at my husband who smiled at her and then at me.
My jealousy got the better of me and I started crying myself to sleep. Then it hit me. If I didn’t want to lose my husband to another woman, I had to change my ways to keep him interested in ME. We hadn’t been intimate for a while, and I was used to dressing down and not caring about my hair and other grooming. Then I started to dress up and make sure my hair and makeup were done before he came in the house. I started touching him more and rubbing his back and shoulders. I stayed up later than I normally do just to sit with him and talk about his day. Finally, we had spectacular sex and he said he loved me, which he hadn’t said in a while.
He says he’s having a hard time getting used to the new me, because I never used to touch him as much as I do now, but hopefully, he will warm up to his “new” wife, and we’ll have the best years of our lives in the future. The other woman is still in the picture, but I have a feeling she won’t be interfering in our relationship anymore thanks to all your help, books and comments!
Nicole
I Woke Up and Reinvested Myself in Our Marriage