I’m 58-years-old and have always had problems with my father. While other kids learned to throw a baseball and use a glove, I learned how to properly dust with Pledge and vacuum straight lines on the living room rug! As a teenager, I got into drug use for “fun,” and it became a habit. I eventually got my life together, but ever since then, my father always mentioned it whenever I saw him. I never knew what to do until I heard you talk to a caller one day with a similar situation.
You told him to get up and say “I’m so sorry I hurt you, and I see that you are hurting. Can I give you a hug, because this obviously hurt you very much.” So, the next time I saw my dad, I got up from the couch and said the same thing to him and hugged him long and hard. He didn’t know what to say, and from that day onward, he has never mentioned it again to me.
Today, we have a great relationship. He is 80 now, and I cherish the time I have with him, realizing he did the best he could. Although I still don’t know how to use a baseball glove, I DO know how to mow a lawn in patterns and stack the dishes “just so” in the dishwasher. You have made my life easier and more joyous using the information you provide every day.
I’m So Sorry I Hurt You
The Dr. Laura Call of the Day Podcast