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Email of the Day: Making A Change To Save My Marriage

By Dr. Laura on May, 20 2020
Email of the Day: Making A Change To Save My Marriage
My mom's been an alcoholic for 30 years and is 3 times divorced. My family has a history of women putting men down and divorcing them if they (the men) refuse to be abused or berated.  When my husband and I married 5 years ago, I treated him the way I'd seen men treated by my mother. I was mean, dismissive, and a basket case.  Two years later, I found out he was having an affair with a girl from his past. I immediately set about blaming him, trying to figure out why HE, the evil one, would do something so terrible to ME, the victim. No introspection for me, though.
Then I found you, and I heard you mention "The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands." I bought it, read it, and I decided to give your methods a go and forced myself to be patient, as my husband was incredulous with the new me.  It took a couple of weeks, but he softened.  I changed, apologized and he did too. The bimbo was out; I was in.  It sounds crazy, but for the first time, I realized men have feelings.

Now, we're far more in love than when we married. Mom's still a crazy alcoholic, but I keep her at arm's length to save my life and my marriage. Your book saved my marriage and you've taught me how to ditch my angry-alcoholic-mother's view of relationships and life in general.   Thank you!

Emily
 
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