My husband and I were close friends with a group of people throughout our early twenties. I was under the impression that they were pro “live your life however you want,” but we learned they were really pro “live your life however WE think you should.”
I got pregnant early in our marriage. We were both a little overwhelmed because I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom, and we expected to have kids a few years later. We went to our friends for emotional support, but instead, we heard from them things like “That sucks! We probably aren’t going to be friends much longer,” or “Are you going to keep the baby?” My husband and I told them off and dropped those “friends.” These are people who always talked about accepting others’ life choices, and how kind we all needed to be toward those who were different from us. Yet, they were telling their own friends that I was throwing away my college degree, I was becoming a “kept” woman, and I would be losing my identity, so they just couldn’t be friends with that. I felt betrayed; people we thought we were close to just abandoned us with ease.
I now see them through lenses of pity instead of anger. Your program and your book “Surviving a Shark Attack (On Land)” have helped me live a life of revenge by being happy and untouched by their judgments. After their betrayal, I found new and wonderful friends and even discovered a fulfilling hobby I wouldn’t have taken up before. Thank you for helping me find the “silver lining” in betrayal.
My Friends Turned On Me
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