I’ve been told that I am very stubborn. I married the wrong man and kept having kids with him thinking it would get better each time. Four kids later, it never got better – it only got worse. The wake-up call happened when Child Protective Services and the police informed me that my stay-at-home husband was abusing our kids. Within 24 hours, he was out the door, and we haven’t heard a word since, other than seeing him to sign the divorce papers.
I was also stubborn in thinking you were completely wrong about dating while having minor children at home. I got serious with a new man, who got close to my kids, then one day decided he didn’t want to be bogged down with just one woman. Out the door he went. However, seeing the effect on my kids was the real wake-up call...finally. Not only did they have an abusive father who disappeared, but then a man they grew to love suddenly didn’t care and he didn’t see them anymore. I never felt like such a failure as a mother.
I now follow the advice you have stood by so firmly. Since the last fiasco, I have been there 100% for my kids. I don’t have time to be someone’s girlfriend – my time is to be devoted solely to being my kids’ mom. Thank you for finally getting into my stubborn head what was best for my kids.
Wendy
My Stubbornness Hurt My Kids