Email of the Day: Our Marriage Was Never Hard Work

I was married to my wife for 16 years, 8 months, 3 days, and 15.1 hours before she passed away from cancer.

Our marriage was never hard work. I really can’t understand how or even why a marriage should be “work.” There was work involved, but that was work to make money, maintain the house, do chores, help others, and so on. THAT was “work.”

But it was never work to be married or to make our marriage successful.

We married each other because we WANTED to, because we wanted to make each other happy and be part of something bigger and better than either of us alone. We wanted to unite our families into one even bigger family. None of this was “work.” Getting along was natural for us. There was no work aspect to it at all. And there was no “luck” either. We consciously and deliberately chose to be married to each other out of love and to make a commitment to each other.

Albert

Our Marriage Was Never Hard Work