I decided it was a good day to reset an internet extender that had stopped working months ago. What I thought would be a half hour βfixβ turned into a four-hour back-and-forth with technical support before the problem was resolved. The frustration was building, so I decided to make lunch in between my support calls. As I walked to the kitchen, I could hear my husband yelling to me from the other room, trying to get my attention. It frayed my last nerve.
I turned down the hall and asked him to βSTOP YELLING AT ME!!! If I donβt answer, come and get me instead of yelling louder!β He told me what he wanted and I headed back to the kitchen. He followed me, and in the middle of the kitchen whirled me around and wrapped me up in one of his great bear hugs. I took a breath and whispered βI needed a hug.β I could feel him start to laugh and I added ββ¦.or twoβ and we both broke into laughter at the absurdity of my getting upset. We hugged a little longer, ate lunch, tech support called back with a solution, and all was well in our world.
Weβve been married for 21 years, and he knew a hug would go a lot further than a snappy comeback. Hugs are powerful! He calmed me without saying a word. Please keep advocating for hugs over fighting, snarkiness and complaining. They really do work!
Judy
A happy wife
The Power of a Hug
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