My husband and I have been married 28 years. It has not always been easy, but we have kept - and will continue to keep - our marriage strong, not just until the kids are up and out, but forever, because we made a commitment to do so.
Unfortunately, we married without taking the time to get to know each other, and the emotional growth that took place over the next 10 years was incredibly frustrating at times and put a tremendous strain on us. Nevertheless, we worked putting ourselves through school and my husband went on to finish law school. We managed to scrape by and even got a home of our own. We both had to deal with difficult in-laws, and we survived a number of “shark attacks” by people we thought we could trust. When our kids came along, no matter what we were going through - and we went through a lot - we raised them in a stable, loving environment with morals, values, ethics, compassion and strength.
Some of the callers I hear to your program - the whiny, selfish adults who put their own needs, wants and whims before their children's well-being - make me really sad and, frankly, a little scared for future generations. So, thanks for all your help and the good you do in this world.
We Vowed to Keep Our Marriage Strong
PS: Even in our fifties, we are still each other's boyfriend and girlfriend every day (and sometimes twice a day).
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