Although I have been listening to you since my teens, I had a baby out-of-wedlock when I was twenty. The baby’s dad made it abundantly clear he wasn’t going to live his life for either of us. That’s when your advice started to penetrate my mind and my heart. So, I put on my big girl panties, stayed close to my parents, and focused on being my kid’s mom.
I hear many of your callers fight the idea of not dating again until the kids are 18, but it really is one of the most sacred pieces of advice you give. My son is now 14, on full scholarship to one of the better schools in the country, and is full of personality, kindness and smarts. Not so long ago, I pointed out to him that I purposefully don’t date. He was shocked. I told him I lived my life in a way that allowed me to focus on being his mom. Though I have to work, overtime is out of the question. My real job starts after I clock out. My girlfriends have a close relationship with my son because, at least for now, we’re a package deal. And he spends lots of time with his alpha granddad doing and fixing all sorts of things we girls have little interest in. Many days I look at him and can’t believe this has gone so well, but I can readily say that it is because I live my life as my kid’s mom.
Keep preaching, teaching and nagging, because even when we stumble, we can pick ourselves up, clean ourselves off, listen to your program and remember to go take on the day. Thank you with all my heart.
Raymond’s mom
Why I Don’t Date
