My parents divorced when I was three years old, due to my fatherβs cheating ways. Because of you, Dr. Laura, I have come to realize a lot of the problems Iβve had stem from his absence. I was promiscuous at a very young age, which led to my making a series of bad choices. When I was still young, I married an older man β looking for the love I never got from my father.
When my dad remarried and had more children, I was devastated. I was a teenager at the time and felt completely unlovable. When I went through my own divorce, I talked about moving near my father, but he told me in no uncertain terms not to do that. I kept feeling like that little girl who just wanted her daddy to love her. After listening to you, I realized I was trying to kiss the butt of a complete jackass! The little girl inside me grieves for a father who never really existed. It is freeing to move on without that anchor around my neck.
I now have a wonderful husband who treats me better than I ever could have imagined was possible. At least with him, I was smart enough to choose a real man and not someone who was a substitute for my dad. Little girls need their dads to be invested in their lives. I wish more parents out there would understand the long-lasting and devastating effects it has on their daughterβs lives. With your help and my husbandβs support, I finally feel lovable again.
Andrea
I Just Wanted My Daddy to Love Me