Email of the Day: I Treated My Husband Like My Servant

Having grown resentful and bitter in my marriage, I purchased "The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands" willing to try anything to save the relationship.

 

In our marriage, I am the one who works and he stays home; we have no children. I have a great career as a nurse which can support us both. Unfortunately, I had gotten into the mentality that because I make all the money, he is my servant and had to do everything when I said and how I said to do it. My husband is an amazing man who cooks dinner every night, cleans the house, does the laundry and takes care of things outside the house.

 

I had allowed money to become a status symbol and a way to control him. I had the mindset that even though he did everything around the house, if I wasn't working to pay all the bills, there would be no house for him to care for. I even did the all-too-common tactic of withholding sex because of my resentment towards him for being at home while I worked.

 

I just finished reading your book and I am embarrassed that I have acted like so many women in there, but I am also grateful for the wakeup call. I will now give my husband the love and respect he deserves and let him know every day how lucky I consider myself to be married to such a wonderful man!

 

Thank you so much Dr. Laura. I truly believe you saved a marriage that was almost on its deathbed.

 

 

Charity

I Treated My Husband Like My Servant