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Email of the Day: I Treated My Husband Like My Servant

By Dr. Laura on November 29, 2023
Man kneels as he cleans wooden floor while woman sitting on couch watches him

Having grown resentful and bitter in my marriage, I purchased "The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands" willing to try anything to save the relationship.


In our marriage, I am the one who works and he stays home; we have no children. I have a great career as a nurse which can support us both. Unfortunately, I had gotten into the mentality that because I make all the money, he is my servant and had to do everything when I said and how I said to do it. My husband is an amazing man who cooks dinner every night, cleans the house, does the laundry and takes care of things outside the house.


I had allowed money to become a status symbol and a way to control him. I had the mindset that even though he did everything around the house, if I wasn't working to pay all the bills, there would be no house for him to care for. I even did the all-too-common tactic of withholding sex because of my resentment towards him for being at home while I worked.


I just finished reading your book and I am embarrassed that I have acted like so many women in there, but I am also grateful for the wakeup call. I will now give my husband the love and respect he deserves and let him know every day how lucky I consider myself to be married to such a wonderful man!


Thank you so much Dr. Laura. I truly believe you saved a marriage that was almost on its deathbed.




I Treated My Husband Like My Servant


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