I had a situation with my sister for several years. We had a conversation recently, but as soon as it started, I realized she had no intention of mending our rift, but instead brought up something that happened 30 years ago, as well as several minor items. I was surprised at the magnitude of her anger. That's when I realized she had sandbagged me - she was counting on me being week, as I always have been. I offered her a sincere apology, but she told me she couldn't move forward with me unless I called each member of her family (including nieces and nephews) and apologized to them too.
I refused to do that. I haven't spoken to her since. And guess what? I haven't been this relieved in a long time. I am happier than I've ever been and thanks to you, I found the strength to stand up for myself. I feel wonderful and proud. You've helped me more than my own therapist.
You are always by my side and I feel stronger for it. Thank you so much for helping people every day.
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