It's 7:46pm and my husband is working diligently in his accounting course right now. We both arrived home from work just in time for a quick home-cooked meal and then we were forced to part again as he is determined to earn his college degree without compromise. I suppose I could mimic the reactions and lifestyles of the women around me and whine so he feels bad about leaving. I could go spend time with my friends, both single and married, who would jump at any opportunity to leave their men alone while they go out and have fun. I could neglect the dishes, the vacuuming, the laundry, the cooking, etc. out of being passive aggressive and wait lazily for him to return. I could for once listen to the mocking of other women who can't seem to fathom cooking meals for their husbands, even though they're stay at home wives. I could do a lot of things, but I'd rather not destroy my marriage.
I admit this lifestyle isn't ideal for everyone, but for my husband and I it's a solid commitment and it's an understanding that we are making sacrifices now in order to live out our future goals later. I have no resentment, no "what-ifs" and no jealousy towards other people's chosen lifestyles. My husband and I know that working hard now, saving money now, spending below our means now, treating each other with admiration and love now, will all pay off eventually. After all, Rome wasn't built in a day.
G-dwilling, a future stay-at-home mom