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How to Stop Letting the Past Dictate Today
How to Stop Letting the Past Dictate Today
09/01/2016

A grandfather is talking with his grandson, and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.

One of them is a good wolf, which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second, then he looks up at his grandfather and asks, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, “The one you feed.”

You cannot forget or ignore the past. However, if you keep recycling negative memories, you’ll never have freedom. Yesterday is NOT today.

Waiting for apologies is silly and so is trying to redo the past. Dating or marrying someone like your mom or dad won’t make things turn out any different.

Many of you feel justified staying stuck because you were wronged and you’re waiting for that person to make you feel better. Others of you think that if you do let go, you’re somehow approving someone’s bad behavior. However, these are limiting thoughts with no basis in reality.

You need to cut the connection between your feelings about the past and your opportunities today. You must recognize how your current thoughts are feeding your suffering even more than whatever happened in the past. That was then and this is now. Be in the present, and stop dueling the present with the past.  

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