Dear Dr Laura,
I have been married to my husband for 15 years and have 4 children. We have historically had a good marriage; however, over 3 years, I had 3 brain surgeries for a rare neurological disorder. I had to really go into myself to heal and unfortunately I did not see how lonely and terrified my husband had become. He was so compassionate to me and took care of me, but did not show his pain.
After my third surgery 2 years ago, I started to get better, but I was still going to bed every night around 8:30 or 9:00- including weekends. He began going out with some new friends who were big drinkers. He got out of control and was leaving the house often. By the time I realized what was going on; we were so disconnected, we were not making love and were just living together- not loving together. We decided we had to get back on track if not for anything else other than for the kids. He came from a divorced family with a never-there daddy and was desperate to not inflict that pain on his kids. I made some big changes, as did he. We worked daily on loving each other and becoming friends and lovers again. However I felt we were still missing something.
I listen to your program almost daily and heard a lot about your book "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands". Wow! What a difference those tiny little changes on my part made. He soaks up my love and affection and sweetness. He soars with it and barely goes out anymore. He would rather be with me than his drinking buddies and is so affectionate to me. To put it plainly, he treats me like a goddess. We are more in love and more connected than we have ever been! We are coming on a year now of working on our relationship and I see our relationship only getting better.
So thank you Dr Laura for your words for husbands who need to be loved and admired for the amazing strong, supportive and extremely generous men they are. You have helped us get our marriage back on track. By the way, I have recommended your book to many of my friends and family members! I think it is gold!