Dear Dr. Laura,
I am a long time listener to your show. My husband and I have been married for almost 17 years. I am 38 and he is 40. Over the years, there have been times we both have turned the other down for sex for one reason or another. I have noticed that most often the reason he turns sex down is timing. Ever since I was a baby, I have been a night owl - my poor parents. I still have the tendency to be a night owl. So my mojo for such activities stirs up late, when he is already in bed or about to crash after an exhausting day. For myself, turning him down was also timing, but body image and not feeling sexy too. After listening to the letters and phone calls around the release of "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands", I realized in a bit of an epiphany, the signals my husband was receiving from me. So, now, he is much happier in that department, wink. I have also lost 83 pounds and now that my husband has a sexy wife, he turns down those late night play sessions far less.