Your recent conversation with a wife struck a chord in me. She said she was guarded around her husband. In response, you brought up her childhood and her broken family. My parents similarly divorced when I was very young, and it affected my willingness to connect with people. If my father wouldn't stay for me, who would, right? You ended the call by telling her she didn’t have to be afraid to love her husband vulnerably because she was safe now. Your words echoed in my mind: “You are safe now. The past is the past. You have a man who loves you. You have the life that you have always wanted — a child and a loving husband — and you are safe now.”
I know my husband loves me. He tirelessly provides for our family and would lay down his life for us. All he wants from me is to love him fearlessly, passionately and affectionately. It’s a small price to pay for all he does.
I hugged my husband when I returned home after hearing that call and simply said, “Thank you for making me feel safe with you.” In that moment, I knew more than ever that I had chosen wisely and would continue to treat him kindly.
I am a work in progress! When I catch myself in the middle of nagging and sabotaging our closeness, I’ll whisper to myself that he is my safe place until death do us part.
With gratitude,
Jackie
I’m Going to Love My Husband Fearlessly
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