For as long as I can remember, I have been my parents’ therapist. I was the one who fixed any big argument between them, and now I’m a mom of two boys and a very happy wife to a wonderful man. I put so much into trying to make sure my parents stayed happy and married, however, that I totally breached my OWN vows by putting their “messed up” relationship before my own marriage.
I eventually realized that I didn’t want to give up the power I had over my parents’ relationship, and that’s the reason I kept betraying my own vows. Once I was aware of this, I knew I’d be headed for divorce if I didn’t change. So, I told my parents I couldn’t be their “psychologist” anymore and if they couldn’t just be my parents without needing my advice, then I would no longer be able to communicate with them. They decided to completely dump me, calling me a “bad daughter.”
By finally doing the right thing, boy, has my marriage improved! I’ve apologized to my husband for my past behavior, and we’re happier than ever. I’ve made peace with the fact that my parents aren’t well and aren’t a part of my life anymore. They threw out a perfectly good daughter, and I know it’s not me – it’s them. Through your program, you showed me the way to handle this. Needless to say, my husband has quickly become a Dr. Laura fan. You’ve helped change our lives in a dramatic way, even though you’ve never actually talked to me on the air. I will be listening forever!
Joely
My Parents Threw Away A Perfectly Good Daughter
