By Katarina Phangwww.katarinaphang.com
Some marriages are worth salvaging, even when they look so hopeless. And I'm a believer that it takes one person to save a relationship
and I have proven it with my track record of helping thousands of women mend their broken relationships/marriages by simply transforming themselves and shifting their energies in the process.
When one person changes in the relationship, the other has to change as well to adjust to the new position. When a partner isn't being resisted, whatever poses as stumbling block will eventually dissolve.
Even when the divorce happens after all, the transformation that happens won't be for nothing.
Why does relationship become hard over time? It's because of accumulation and resistance.
What is accumulation? Accumulation of the piling of experiences that typically involve unresolved issues and hurt feelings.
How does accumulation happen? It happens because most people don't die to the past. They either live in the past of the future, both of which don't exist, thus are illusions.
Why don't people die to the past? Because the ego lives in psychological time: which involves the past or the future. The movement in the mind space is resistance of the present moment. The mind isn't really needed in the now so dropping the mind is really about to dwell and surrender in the glorious moment.
What is resistance? Resistance happens when there is a gap between "what is
" and "what should be
." "What should be
" is the play of the mind, it's the resistance of the now. It's what expectations are. And expectations are the mother of all heartaches.
The heartaches bring to accumulation because the ego will resist the now and dying to the past.
So between those two things: accumulation and resistance, marital issues are created and exacerbated over time.Remember this: what you resist persists, what you embrace dissolves
So when your husband has checked out from the marriage, shift your energy by stop doing those two things. It's hard but it's doable as many of my clients have proven.
To tame the ego and its penchant to accumulate and resist is to understand and see how the mind works
. My teachings center around this very fundamental transformational power.
Only when the nature of the mind/ego is seen, the mind will no longer be front and center. You will no longer identify with and be lost in the identification with thoughts. Your thoughts will no longer rule you as they do now. All the problems you have in your marriage are created when you believe whatever your thoughts say.
And your thoughts are rarely empowering and uplifting. They usually center around lack and negative I-thoughts. Your thoughts will drive you into responding to situations with anger, pushiness, blaming, shaming and resentment.
To understand the mind is first to bring awareness into your daily life, into every activity you're engaged in, including thinking. Try to catch yourself when you're thinking and learn to let the thought go.
It will be so hard at first because we are conditioned to think incessantly so the notion that you aren't your thoughts is so totally mind-boggling because now the mind needs to see itself and it's something it has never done before.
But when you are forced to look what this mind is, you will notice that the mind will become silent before, of course, it starts jumping into the next thought and the next preoccupation.
In this silence of the mind, insights pop up out of nowhere. The more you cultivate this silence, the more grounded you become and if you consistently do this, your energy will eventually shift.
Your husband will notice the shift in your energy and he will respond accordingly.
Rebuilding your relationship -and love life- is about shifting your energy: from lack and desperation to excitement about possibilities and the faith in abundance of life; from anger and resentment to love, gratitude and compassion; from fear to hope and self-confidence; from misery to joyfulness; and last but not least: from the need to control and hold on to things/ideas/person so tightly to letting go.
Katarina is a dating/relationship coach and Feminine Magnetism expert par extraordinaire who has worked and helped thousands of women from all corners of the world transform their relationships using her very profound, unique and counter-intuitive teachings of inner work/personal transformation. Whatever your situation is her Feminine Magnetism Method
will help you turn it around. Her record is one engagement/week, thousands of blooming new relationships, established relationships improved, marriages saved and thousands of exes back or mere happy fulfilled single lives for those who are still in the journey. She changes lives every single day and revolutionizes the world by providing infinite possibilities to human growth and bringing insights into the evolution of human consciousness, one woman at a time. She is indeed the last resort when everything else has failed. Add her on Facebook
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