My 22-year-old son just left our house in tears. We finally cut the cord on him. After a few years of second chances, which turned into thirty โsecond chances,โ we had reached the end of the road. He has decided to shack up with a girl who has a two-year-old son and lots of other baggage, including an eating disorder and a drug habit.
Iโve heard your nagging voice in the back of my head for the last few years โ that is, โcut him off and it will be the best thing that you can do for him.โ Today I had the strength to listen. No more paying his phone bill or his car insurance. He has chosen to walk into a storm of drama that belongs to someone else. That girl and her baby are not a problem my husband and I want to support. She is not our responsibility. My son thinks he is โsavingโ her.
We told him we love him and hope he lands on his feet, but we said goodbye. I feel lighter and thereโs no more clenching in my chest, so I know we did the right thing. Itโs sad that he hasnโt grown into the man we know he is capable of being, but we canโt make him do it. Hopefully, some day he will have matured and will knock on our door and ask, โwhatโs for Sunday dinner?โ Until then, we know weโve done everything we can.
Keely
Finally Cutting the Cord