I had dated my (now) husband a few times and was speaking to him almost daily. I was by then legally divorced from my first husband for a year. It was tax season, and I’d mentioned to my new love that I was meeting my ex-husband to do his taxes. He didn’t get angry, but asked if my ex and I were filing a joint return. When I said, “no,” he calmly said, “Well, it appears you need to figure out what it is that you want. It seems you are not through with your relationship with your ex. When you decide you’re done with him, call me.” That took me aback!
After catching my breath, I realized what I was doing. I called my ex-husband, told him I was NOT going to do his taxes, and to no longer contact me. I then called my (now) husband, thanked him for opening my eyes, and apologized for leading him on. It has been fifteen years since then. It took me five years to learn to love a true man: honest, straight-shooting, fearless, supportive and loving, and we’ve been married for ten years. After taking the time to learn to admire, respect and love, I am a truly happy wife.
Adriane
I Wasn't Done With My Ex
