My husband and I were in a rut and I couldn’t figure out what was wrong. I realized that I fell into bad habits after our fourth child was born. I felt entitled and was overall just mean! Your book “The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands” snapped me out of it.
My husband works full-time, and I stay home and homeschool all the kids. Before your marital karate kick, I resented making breakfast for him before work and rolled my eyes at making a lunch for him. I kept thinking “get up earlier and take care of yourself. I’m not your mother!” Your book reminded me that these actions done with a smile are a way to SHOW my love for him. I also fell into the horrible habit of complaining about the house and motherly duties I did every day and especially on the weekends while he sat on the couch and relaxed.
I now ask for help kindly if I need it, or just do the work with a smile and thankful disposition, and I’ve seen a change in us as individuals that has positively impacted our marriage. We were watching TV the other night when a commercial for a cleaning product came on. It said that 65% of household chores were done by one person. That surprised my husband, but I looked at him and said “Yes, it’s true, but 100% of our income comes from one person, so I think it’s a fair trade-off.” He gave me the biggest smile, and we just cuddled.
Thank you for snapping me out of really destructive habits and helping me find love and thankfulness in my blessings.
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