When I tell someone I’m a stay-at-home mom, I’m often asked, “What do you do all day with your kids?” They say it with an exasperated air, like just the thought is exhausting them. One friend said, “I don’t know how you do it. I need some time away from my baby. Time for me.” Clearly, we speak a different language. Sometimes, I just want to respond, “Oh, I don’t know. I just spend my days TRYING TO KEEP TWO KIDS ALIVE,” but think that might come off a little harsh. So, I just shrug my shoulders and tell them how these days with my girls are precious and there is always time for work in the future.’’
I never bought into the feminist adage that you can have it all. It’s a mentality that you can keep adding weights to a barbell and still balance it over your head. Nope. One day that barbell is going to drop and it is going to hurt. Instead, I have my own way of “having it all.” Recently, as I tucked my girls into bed, I could not help reliving our day of art projects, reading, and cooking lessons -- a normal day I would never want to take back. I am a mother who can confidently say my amazing husband and I are raising two kind, courageous, funny girls, and yes, they’re beautiful too (sorry – I had to say it). This is all I need. I DO have it all.
I DO Have It All