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06/30/2015
Eighteen years ago, I called you about a question I had. You asked me about something else as there is a 10 year difference in age between my husband and me. I got snotty and you hung up on me, as I deserved. You also stated we'd probably be divorced in 5 years. I determined in my mind I was going to beat the odds and set out to prove you wrong. That was the wrong attitude to take, but a great goal. Here we are 18 years later and we're still going strong, but not without a lot of bumps and heartaches.
Long story short: his parents were murdered 10 years ago and in the next 7 years, we lost our health, our jobs AND our home. It's only been in the last 3 years, we've finally gotten our feet under us again. But we told each other a long time ago, the only way you get out of this is when you're dead, so get comfy. There has been many, many times we've had to actually go away for full weekends and give the other one their space so we could get things in perspective and talk like adults, not fight like children. It was so bad at one point, we moved in with my parents for about 1 year. But that time saved us. We were able to get our health AND our financial health back. We moved 100 miles away from our old life and started anew. By the grace and mercy of God, we have made it thus far and we will continue until God takes one of us home.
I just wanted to let you know I appreciate your stand and the fact you pushed a bratty 21 year old by telling her she wouldn't make it. She set out to prove you wrong and found that her love for God, her husband, and her kids were greater. We have read your books and I just got "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage". I can't wait to dive into it and see if I can continue to make changes in me to help my family. This year we celebrated 21 years of marriage. He's my boyfriend and I am his girlfriend. We make time to be together and we still date. Our kids "hate" it when they walk into the kitchen and we're "flirting" instead of cooking dinner. So this bratty 21 year old finally grew up.
Once again, Thank you have a wonderful and blessed day.
Misty Jo
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