I asked my husband once if he knew why I listened to you. He said “to learn how to deal with jerks like me!” I was stunned…and heartbroken that I had created a man who thought he was a jerk. I told him the real reason I listen is to learn how to be a better wife, and he just stared at me. I knew then that I had a problem, and it wasn’t all him.
Just a few weeks ago, I woke up in the middle of the night and heard a voice in my head say “read The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage one more time, and this time do what it says!”
So, I re-read the book in one sitting. My husband also agreed to read it, knowing that our marriage was out of sorts and could be so much better if we both committed to some much-needed changes.
In literally one day, I saw changes! I felt like a new woman – one who finally put my husband first, and threw all my petty grievances in the garbage where they belonged. We’re happier and calmer now than we’ve been in a long time, and we’re reminding ourselves why we chose each other over 38 years ago. And the sex has been exceptional too!
One more thing – I started a “My Man Monday” folder. Each Monday morning, I put a short note to him in the folder, telling him one thing I admire, love, respect or find sexy about him. Now that we’re back on track, I have no doubt that I’ll have many things to choose from when I write my next note.
Patty
I Made My Husband Feel Like a Jerk
