I was listening to your podcasts and heard a handful of calls involving wives whose husbands had been cheating. As I carefully listened to the pain in the voices of these women and your realistic advice, I pondered my own selfishness. I decided at that moment to change.
My husband had been working outdoors all day and I thought it would be nice to make him lunch. I carried to him a homemade meal and fresh limeade. I told him how much I love him, and his response was, "Really? Then show me." That hit me like a brick. I got a deep sense that there was another woman in the picture. I investigated and found a phone number for her. We had a long night full of arguing and tears because he admitted fully to his short-lived relationship with this woman, which would have continued had I not decided to "wake up."
He told me they had had sex once and though he felt bad about it even in the moment, he said it was better than what he was getting at home! I have never felt so much pain in my life, but that reality was the jolt I needed to humble myself and get honest.
As a result, this week with my husband has been the best ever in our 17-year marriage. He promptly ended his affair and we have enjoyed every moment together. I made the conscious choice to become his girlfriend. I re-read your book and it came as no surprise that I have been an example of everything NOT to do. My husband is a good man, and he truly deserves the best I can give him.
Tearing that wall down has allowed me to love my man and to enjoy treating him as my hero. Our relationship in the bedroom has been better than when we first married. Our outlook on our future life together is one that is happy and optimistic. What a difference it makes in your marriage to do as you always say, "Choose wisely and treat kindly."
Cynthia
Show Me You Love Me
